Friday (27/8) the Psychology Consultation Unit (UKP) of the Faculty of Psychology UGM held the 11th UKP Synergy UKP Sharing (UBUB). On this occasion, the topic raised is “Relieve Broken Hearts with Mindfulness”. The resource persons involved in this topic are Vincent Eddy K. H., M.Psi., a psychologist as one of the partner psychologists at UKP.
According to Vincent, romantic relationships become one of the goals of life that a person has, in addition to education and career. One of the causes of the occurrence of a romantic relationship that a person has is the intensity of the meeting that starts from acquaintances then makes friends and then increases to intense depth. “If it is associated with Javanese proverbs, then the one that fits this phenomenon is Witing Tresna Jalaran Saka Kulina,” explained Vincent.
Some characteristics of romantic relationships or can be called passionate love, such as confusion about defining the situation, feeling easily connected to those around them, trying to be physically close, and wanting to be treated the same. However, it is undeniable that not all romantic relationships succeed by having the same feelings between one person and another or people call it “one-sided love”.
Vincent continued, some rejections can be in the form of satire, the person you like experiences a change in attitude, and things don’t go as expected. “I divide the effects experienced by someone who experiences rejection into two groups, namely the effects of feelings and effects of body reactions”. Effects of feelings include sadness, anxiety, fear, hopeless, regret and guilt. Meanwhile, the effects caused by the body as a reaction to the rejection effect are nausea, weakness, headache, fever, giddiness, and even indigestion. According to Vincent, the effects of rejection, both feelings and bodies, have been packaged in one nice word by the late. Didi Kempot, namely ambyar.
Therefore, at the 11th UBUB event, Vincent had the opportunity to help the participants who attended by using one of the ways to reduce confusion with mindfulness. Mindfulness is a process of directing attention to various present (current) conditions without any judgment.
Not only delivering material, but Vincent invites UBUB participants to participate in practicing together one of the postures in mindfulness, namely the sitting position. The practice of mindfulness together directly at UBUB this time is certainly an interesting and unique thing. More than 40 participants were grateful and enthusiastic for holding mindfulness practice together.